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17/01/2015

10 things today’s women want from men

10 things today’s women want from men
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As most matrimonial ads typically go by the, "fair, slim and homely girl needed for a well-settled boy" phrase, women's demands have undergone a drastic change.

"Tall, dark and handsome" has now been replaced by "broadminded, understanding and a good cook." While both men and women are known to fantasise about their prospective spouses, what makes it more exciting are the expectations they have.

Women, in recent times, are known to outnumber men in listing out modern expectations from their prospective spouse, cooking being one of them.

In a recent survey conducted by a matrimonial website, a whopping 51.9 per cent women said that they want their prospective spouses to help in household chores. While, 39.5 per cent want a spouse with culinary skills. Marriage counsellor Vedika Shreshtha, says, "The modern woman is independent, smart and speaks her heart, that makes her demands different from the stereotypes. Hence, if she thinks her prospective spouse should fulfill certain criteria, why not?"

She also adds, "Remember those days when prospective grooms would come to the bride's home to see her walk and talk. Modern-age women are not just rendering this trend as passe but are paving a new path to have a stronger wedlock with better transparency." Both men and women discover different things about themselves after marriage. It is often observed that these things are mostly shocks and not surprises. A guy who seemed open-minded when you met during courtship, suddenly seems an alien after staying together for a few days. Hence, these criteria when laid out before marriage can clear the air between the couple.

"We, too, have long working hours, in fact, sometimes even longer than men, and our jobs are as stressful. Hence, if I expect my husband to help me with the household chores, what's so annoying about it? If he can expect me to be by his side during highs and lows, can't I expect such a small thing from him," says Bijalpita Dasgupta, an engineer by profession. Many feel that men who know cooking can be great companions for life, as they believe in sharing the simple joys in life like giving your better half a deserving break from the kitchen.

Ranjeeta Kalyanchandmooda, a wedding counsellor, feels that undergoing an HIV test and a fertility test before weddings is not just a criteria, it should be a mandate.

"STDs are very common these days, and it could affect anyone anytime. If the person's medical conditions are prior known to the spouse, the person can be treated accordingly, and a right decision of marrying the person or not, will be solved easily. It also relieves women from being in the blame game of being unable to bear a child, etc," says Ranjeeta.

Opening up about your liabilities and investments to your partner will make it simpler. "It will not just make the couple feel secure about each other, but also work in case of emergencies since the other half knows the kind of savings they have," says Amit Dharia, a financial advisor.

What women want

- They should know how to cook

- They should help with household chores

- They should readily undergo an HIV test prior to marriage

- Admit to not feel financially insecure if I earn well/keep male ego aside

- Be open to talk about sex and also experiment

- Have a staunch opinion against dowry even if it is stated in customs

- Give enough 'me' time

- Never encourage any comparison with the mother-in-law

- Do not force on having children

 

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30/12/2014

Workplaces: Is it a man's world?

Workplaces: Is it a man's world?
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Palak Bhatia discusses the dynamics of workplaces with a male majority and the need for a balanced gender ratio

Organisations today recognise the importance of diversification of their workforces. Be it age, race, religion or geography, companies today try to accommodate skilled employees from all strata in their human resources. One of the most vital factors in this diversification process is gender. Unbalanced gender ratios often foster an environment in which the majority is unreceptive to the ideas and work of the minority. It is therefore, advised that a healthy equilibrium between the genders is essential at workplaces.

When the workplace of a male professional has much lesser number of female employees, it subtly plays with his mentality that women are maybe lesser talented.

As a result, males come to feel that it is a `man's job' and are less inclined to trust the work of women employees. Zafar Rais, CEO, MindShift Interactive, elaborates, "In a social context, if a man works around a large number of men and fewer women, he is definitely bound to think that capabilities differ depending on gender. This is mainly because he is not given a chance to explore or witness a woman's sense of work and progress. It impacts the team-working ability of both men and women if men do not trust women to do the work they are assigned for. If a man lives in a pretext that it is a `man's job', it's time to shift that way of thinking.

We have men and women doing the same work in our office, without ever having a bias towards either side. Organisations facing such a situation must work towards changing it through bonding exercises, highlighting strengths of men and women employees and ensuring the top managers aren't biased."

In contrast, when the office has a larger number of female employees, it makes male professionals more open to their opinions, brings a human touch and does not allow ego to come in the way. Sumithra Mathew, vice president and head HR of a real estate website, explains, "Perceptions of talent may vary based not only on numbers, but also on the role assigned and competence required for executing the role. Given that, women employees certainly bring in a different dimension to the workplace. Male professionals are beginning to recog nise this and companies that leverage this diversity stand to gain in the long run."

Hence, it is important to maintain a good gender ratio in organisations. Saba Adil, head talent, AEGON Religare Life Insurance, elaborates, "Good gender diversity is always healthy for an organisation as skills complement each other in a gender-balanced environment and is good for everyone. It allows companies to get the best talent in from an available talent pool and create a work atmosphere that is more inclusive, considers more viewpoints, perspectives and sharing of ideas, leading to more innovation, better solutions and hence better performance."

 

Hence, organisations must work towards improving their gender ratios so as to create a nurturing and productive atmosphere in the offices. Read more here:MarieAustralia vintage formal dresses